Marriage
is the process by which two people who love each other make their relationship
public, official, and permanent. It is the joining of two people in a bond that
putatively lasts until death, but in practice is increasingly cut short by
divorce. It is because of ignorance, ineffective communication, and spending
not enough time.
Spouses
always ignore issues as a couple.
This
is probably the worst thing they can do. Sticking their head in the sand around
the issues they may have in their relationship is not the way to go. The
unexpressed feelings will slowly but surely start eating away at you, and over
a period of time, what seemed like small annoyances will transform into massive
resentments. And then before they know it, they're hating each other because
they cannot put up with it anymore. The problem got bigger and bigger, and
before we knew it, we stopped trusting one another and the relationship broke
down completely.
Sometimes,
couple is always in conflict because they don't work on the relationship. Somehow,
we seem to think intimate relationships will run on their own fuel without
putting much effort into them. This is simply not true! A relationship needs
work. At the very least, understand how relationships work; and at the very
most, work on yourself and what you bring to the relationship. Healthy and
fulfilling relationships happen from the inside out. Some spouses do not learn
about how relationships work and the rest will follow.
One
of the other cornerstones to any successful relationship is giving yourself the
time to connect with one another. If you are not giving yourself the time to do
this, then you will feel disconnected and distant.This is also one of the
biggest errors that the spouses made in my own marriage. Before they knew it, their
love was completely disconnected and cannot be together again.
In
conclusion, to avoid going down the rocky road of divorce, you will need to
learn to communicate properly, work on the relationship, spend time together as
much as possible. It may sound like a lot of work, but it beats the heartbreak
of signing divorce papers.
